Thursday, April 12, 2012

Me, the Fundie-Conflict-Magnet


I decided to delete this post. I just had the feeling if the information fell into the wrong hands . . .  well, it would be used against me.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think you're onto something. The closer someone thinks he or she is to God, the meaner they get. That seems to be my experience anyway. The Pharasees had the same problem. On second thought, it might be that the closer someone thinks they are to truth, the meaner they get.

Jaimie said...

Honestly I think you should say "poor me" a little bit. When it comes right down to it, you are alone, and that sucks. Maybe these things could be nipped in the bud if you weren't such a lone sheep, an easy target, if anyone would stand up for you.

It's true that standing up for yourself does squat where fundies are concerned.

That restaurant story is insane. What pisses me off most of all is that it was made to seem like it was your fault. Like you handled it wrong, ergo it became a disruption. I just see this crazy rape victim "you seduced him and asked for it" mentality buzzing around you, but at least you haven't internalized that.

Hope T. said...

What Jaimie said is true == you are alone. Not an Evangelical, not an atheist, you don't have a clan. You are just one man alone. I feel similarly alone, although thank goodness I don;t have fundamentalists attacking me the way you do. It must be awful.
Do you know of a forum or an online message board where people can talk about healing from religious trauma? I found a good website with resource links but I would love to find a site where real people can talk about their experiences and how they can adjust to life after fundagelicalism. Balancing family needs is especially hard, as you well know, and I think that is just one of many issues people could help one another with. I am going to keep searching for a group like that either real life or online.
Take care, MJ, don't let them beat you down.

jmj said...

You know, my bizarre experiences like this are not common. The restaurant one was about 13 years ago. But I do think there is a risk. If you are around evangelicals . . . and you don't join in the Jesus chatter . . . you are vulnerable to being demonized.

Anonymous said...

When you're talking God's Speshul Anointed, anything you say not only can but WILL be used against you. In All Righteousness.

Anonymous said...

The closer someone thinks he or she is to God, the meaner they get. That seems to be my experience anyway. The Pharasees had the same problem. On second thought, it might be that the closer someone thinks they are to truth, the meaner they get.

"Nothing's worse than a monster who thinks he's right with God."
-- Capt Mal Reynolds, Free Trader Serenity

Only there is one that's worse, Mal. A monster who KNOWS he's Right with God.

Jaimie said...

Maybe the wrong hands should see this post. Maybe the truth really can set people free.

jmj said...

To honest truth seekers . . . the truth does set you free. To those, whose fragile self-esteem rest squarely on the belief that they (and hardly anyone else) has the "truth" then the real truth tends to piss them off. But that's just my opinion.

Jaimie said...

Well I meant set YOU free. But I don't really know what I'm talking about. :P

I just don't like seeing people afraid to say what they actually believe, especially when it's reasonable. But I do that in my own life I guess.